Many times in a conflict you’re not exactly sure what it is that’s bugging you. The real reason for the conflict lies buried deep below the surface, in your subconscious. So be conscious of your subconscious. Explore your gut feeling. Retrace what happened – step by step. Find out where that unpleasant feeling comes from. Do you feel unappreciated? Excluded? Humiliated? Are they not taking you seriously? Or do they question your professionalism? By identifying the cause you contain your frustration. This decreases your chances of acting impulsively and further worsening your position. An added advantage: while you’re exploring, you’re also taking time out for yourself.